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How to approach child custody during divorce

On Behalf of | Jun 24, 2025 | Divorce

Child custody decisions during divorce require careful consideration of your children’s best interests while protecting your parental rights. Courts prioritize creating stable arrangements that serve your children’s emotional, physical and developmental needs above all other considerations.

Understanding how to approach child custody during divorce is crucial because it leads to better outcomes for everyone involved.

Focus on the child’s best interests

Courts use the best interests of the child standard when making all custody decisions. This means judges evaluate what arrangement will most benefit your children’s overall well-being rather than what either parent wants or prefers.

Factors courts consider include each parent’s mental and physical health, ability to provide stable housing, involvement in the children’s daily lives and any history of domestic violence or substance abuse.

Document your parental involvement

Demonstrate through records that you participate in your children’s lives including school events, medical appointments, extracurricular activities and daily caregiving responsibilities. This documentation demonstrates your commitment to active parenting and helps support your custody requests.

Maintain evidence of your stable living situation, financial ability to support your children and involvement in their education and healthcare decisions.

Consider cooperative solutions first

Working collaboratively with your ex-spouse to develop custody arrangements often produces better results than contentious court battles. Mediation and collaborative divorce processes allow you to create customized solutions that work for your specific family situation.

Courts generally prefer arrangements where both parents remain actively involved in their children’s lives. Proposing reasonable parenting plans that prioritize your children’s needs while respecting both parents’ rights shows judges that you can co-parent effectively after divorce.