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Tips for starting the divorce conversation with your spouse

On Behalf of | Jan 24, 2025 | Divorce

The way you discuss divorce with your spouse can significantly impact the case. If this conversation begins with conflict and contention, the divorce proceedings may follow a similar tone. However, if approached calmly and peacefully, the process may lead to an amicable resolution.

Every situation is unique, but the tips below may help you start this conversation with your spouse.

Only bring it up when you’re sure

First and foremost, you should be 100% certain that you want a divorce before discussing it. This is not a conversation to explore the possibility of divorce or seek input. Instead, it is a declaration of your decision to end the marriage.

Avoid blaming

Focus on kindness and empathy as you approach this discussion. Avoid blaming your spouse by telling them the divorce is their fault or pointing fingers. While it’s important to be direct, you can still express your feelings in a thoughtful and peaceful manner.

Think about when to start the conversation

Timing matters when talking about divorce. While there may never be a perfect moment, there are certainly times to avoid. For instance, if your family is already dealing with significant stress or upcoming events like holidays or vacations, it may be better to wait.

Additionally, this needs to be a dialogue, not a quick exchange. Avoid bringing it up when one of you is about to leave for work or has limited time. Choose a time when you and your spouse can sit down and have an uninterrupted conversation.

These tips can help you begin the divorce discussion. Once you do, make sure you understand the legal steps to take moving forward.