Your child’s school plays a crucial role in their life. Your child spends a better part of their day with their teachers and schoolmates. Thus, it can be beneficial if the school knows about your divorce.
But how should you tell them?
Talk to your child first
Your child should know you will be informing the school about the divorce, especially if they are old enough (middle to high school-aged). This can help them prepare for the situation. If your child tells you they are not ready for their teachers to know what’s happening at home, respect that and help them prepare for it.
Besides, telling the school about the divorce before giving your child a heads-up can make them feel you don’t respect their feelings or opinions.
When talking to your child, let them know why it’s necessary to discuss the divorce with the school. For instance, the school can offer them support, as the divorce may affect their academic performance. Or because you will be making changes to pick-ups and drop-offs.
When your child understands why their school needs to be aware of the divorce, they may be more cooperative.
Decide what to tell the school
Your child’s school doesn’t need to know the details about your divorce. However, they should have enough details to understand how they can help your child.
Important details you can include in your email/message are that you are getting a divorce and how the school can offer emotional and educational support. You should also actively remind the school to notify you if your child exhibits behavioral changes.
It’s vital to let your child’s school know about the divorce. Learn more about how you can handle this conversation while protecting your child.