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How to stay calm during your divorce

On Behalf of | Sep 26, 2023 | Divorce

Going through a divorce can result in strong emotions. You may feel guilt for “not making things work”/ “failing,” grief because the life you thought would last forever is ending, anger towards yourself or your spouse, perhaps for betraying or abandoning you and fear of the future/being alone.

These feelings may cloud your judgment, and, in turn, you may make decisions that can disadvantage you. It’s crucial to stay calm during your divorce.

Here is how you can do this:

Forgive yourself

Most of the emotions during your divorce may stem from blaming yourself for certain things. To avoid this, acknowledge your actions that may have pushed your spouse to ask for a divorce or the reasons that led you to initiate it. You should be honest about this. Then, forgive yourself for your actions and your spouse for theirs.

Go to therapy 

Some divorce emotions, such as grief, can be challenging to deal with. Accordingly, you should consider going to therapy. A specialist will provide you with tools to deal with grief, protecting you from depression, anxiety and other mental health issues.

Get support

Support from family and friends is crucial when going through a divorce. Being around loved ones willing to help you throughout the process can save you from sadness and anger. Joining a support group can also be beneficial.

Learn calming strategies 

Calming strategies like breathing techniques, journaling, meditation, yoga, listening to music, thinking happy thoughts and physical exercises are vital during a divorce. And you can employ most of them anytime, anywhere.

Divorce is significantly an emotional process. The above-discussed tips can help you control your emotions. You should also get legal guidance to protect your interests.