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Why do people divorce?

On Behalf of | Mar 1, 2021 | Divorce

Divorce is something nobody wants to think about, but it can happen to anyone. No matter how great your relationship may seem, you could come to a point where you have to admit things are not working out.

You may wonder what leads to divorce. Knowing the causes could help you to avoid divorce in your future. However, according to Psychology Today, it is hard to pinpoint the real reasons people divorce because what they report as the cause is usually just the last issue in a long line of issues. There are trends, though, and you can look at these.


Perhaps the biggest reason people give for ending a marriage is that one spouse cheated. Going outside the relationship can cause serious mental and emotional damage. It is very difficult for most people to move forward after an affair. It will lead you to question everything else about your relationship, which makes it difficult to move on.

Lack of commitment

Some people find out once they are in a marriage that they are not happy leaving their single life behind. If both of you cannot commit to the relationship, then it is sure to fail. Often, a lack of commitment occurs in the early years of the marriage as one of you realizes that you much preferred being single. Since fixing the problem would require the person to change his or her feelings, which is usually impossible, the best solution is usually divorce.

Growing apart

People change over time. You may realize one day that you and your spouse are much different people than you were when you entered the marriage. The changes may be so extreme that you are no longer compatible or comfortable in the relationship. Unfortunately, there is no way to prevent this from happening, and it can happen to anyone.

The takeaway here is that a divorce might be the result of certain actions or the result of something that develops over time, which means it is difficult to know for sure your marriage is safe from divorce.